1 Corinthians 13:13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
Once you share something it’s not yours anymore. So the choice for me to share part of our story, was a choice I made solely out of wanting people reading who don’t believe love exists to have patience.
I have a best guy friend named Brandon. So we will call him BW to prevent confusion. He has been my bestfriend since I was 10. Fast forward he knew Brandon through private school. When I was about 15 BW’s mom used to tell me all of the time about this boy named Brandon that I would be so cute with and that she needed to invite him over so I could meet him. I was like “R U CRaZy iM MaRrYiNg mY hIGh ScHoOl SwEetHeArT”…little did I know. I ended up messaging him on fb because I heard him in the background of a phone call with BW asking me if I knew Aladdin…smooth…and then we had silly friendly banter and we talked sporadically. We finally met at BW’s birthday party.
When I saw him, I knew. It was the weirdest feeling. It felt like the world was still and I was supposed to meet him and I had butterflies. He walked inside from the patio and we looked right at each other.
Me- “We finally meet, I’m-”
Brandon- “Jazmin, I know who you are” (smiling)
And in my head I’m like
Omg he knows my name.
But obviously he does we’ve talked before.
Brandon- “I’m Brandon, it’s nice to finally meet you”
We embraced in a hug, chatted for a while, exchanged numbers and it was a Halloween party so we took a picture together because we somehow were the most inappropriately dressed.
Brandon lookin like a snack with those highlights
Hand placement. haha.
A month or so later, Brandon asked me on a date. So I go. At this point, I was 18, I’m not sure if he was yet. It was the best date of my life. He was an absolute gentleman and had all of the traits I wanted in a partner. He was raised so well. He was a baseball player at the time and passionate about it. Loved his family more than anything. Believed in God. I could see he had a really good heart under his suave facade. His favorite is telling this story because he says he was smitten by me and loved the fact that he couldn’t read me. He always tells everyone “My tricks didn’t work with her man, I was even too nervous to kiss her.” Little did he know everything was working, I had already fallen for him, I’m just a good actress. We ended our perfect night and parted ways.
Brandon waited weeks to text me and it was late and I was upset and made it known. This was the moment I gained his respect, just… not his heart. Typing this out makes me realize how long this process was. My patience was top notch.
We didn’t see each other until my 19th birthday 4-5 months later. To his surprise, I had a boyfriend. So other than receiving one passive aggressive sorry text, our friendship was seemingly halted. There was something we couldn’t shake but neither one of us could admit it- especially so young. A year passed and we saw each other at BW’s birthday again. I was 20 at this point and he was 19. Brandon and I went about our night not talking to each other and overly laughing at everyone else’s jokes to get each other’s attention. Finally he looks at me and says,
“How’s John* ?” and I said “How’s Jane*?” (No our exes names aren’t John and Jane but you don’t need to know their names).
Then we just smirked and looked at each other for what seemed like forever. He hugged me and left. About five minutes later I get a text that says “It was good seeing you Jaz” and I replied “It was good seeing you Brandon.” And that was it.
Fast forward the following year 4 months later. I reached out, we got to talking on a regular basis and we started hanging out and became best friends. All the while knowing we liked each other. There was a lot that belongs to just us after that. But I’ll tell you we didn’t just start dating and live happily ever after. We continued to go through our ups and downs. We were in love but it’s scary to look in someone’s eyes and see forever when you didn’t believe love like that was possible.
We officially started dating on the set of Bloodline. Kyle (his on screen dad) asked him if I was his girlfriend and Brandon looked at me and back at him and said “Yeah.This is my girlfriend.”
We met 4 years before we dated and had serious relationships with other people between that time and still found each other again. Have hope.
After we started officially dating we entered the most beautiful relationship of our lives. We realized we had been missing out on something that fills your heart in a way nothing else can. Love truly is everything. I’ve never been in a relationship where I feel so valued. We pray together, talk about life while playing uno for like 4 hours in a row. We explore new albums together with the windows down driving to nowhere and go on random adventures. We push each other to succeed in the hardest of industries. We communicate and work through absolutely everything. Brandon is my best friend and he’s not just what I want, he’s what I need.
I mentioned in my last blog the impact of my parents divorce. Growing up it broke me but as an adult it shaped me. Their divorce showed me the importance of true communication. The importance of not settling and having patience. The importance of fighting for the right love but also knowing when something is toxic. The importance of respect. The importance of honesty. The importance of trust. The importance of loyalty and the importance of choosing your partner even when it’s hard.
True love isn’t skin deep. It’s falling in love with someone’s soul.
Learning from my parents and from other relationships I’ve been able to be my best self in this one and I’ve been able to identify what real love is.
I know most of you reading love Brandon and that makes me so happy but you started to love me too and that is something I’ll be grateful for forever. I love love and I love to love and I want to keep spreading that message and filling your hearts with hope and with life. I want you to do life with me and it doesn’t scare me to have you in my head because maybe having you in my head will get you out of bed to face a day and see it differently than you did before. To know you’re not alone.
I had to share bits and pieces of our story because I don’t want you to have this false view of love. I don’t want you to look at Brandon and I and see effortless perfection. I want you to see strength, hard work, true love and perseverance.
Brandon, I’m not sure where we are headed on this crazy journey, but I do know that in any lifetime I would’ve found you. Not a day goes by where I don’t look at you and get overwhelmed by feeling so blessed. I pray that you are a part of every day of the rest of my life and I know how much God loves me because he gave me you.